Disposable

Another week, with more drivel for you to become nauseated by after reading.

Kind of been struggling this week to come up with something to post this week, had a couple of ideas earlier but failed to write them down, even tried to go the lazy route by looking through somethings that I've jotted down before but either those were already posted or didn't fit the bill for what I am feeling this week. No worries though, I have some life drama to throw out to you to roll your eyes at, sigh a heavy breath of disappointment, because you just don't care and trust me, neither really do I.

So here we go.

Recently I have had the honor of being deleted as a friend on MySpace and Facebook. Now usually this would not really garner a second look or thought from me; especially if it was from someone on MySpace since I do have some people on there that I have never met, nor probably never will. This was someone that I thought was a friend, someone that we hung out together for quite a bit of time, someone that I considered a friend, even still do. Obviously this deletion was a shock and a bit of a heartbreak considering neither of us have had contact in about a month and if we did exchange words or talk, it wasn't of a negative nature. Now this came without notice or fair warning and after the deed was done, no word as to why or a reason given.

Now on to the crux of this diatribe.

Seems some people have disposable friends. Friends that are true to them, but once they become tired of you, you are tossed to the side like a toy by a spoiled brat that has lost interest. This doesn't have to be from the result of a difference of views, an argument or one having killed the others father, but mostly from the simple fact they got what they wanted and have no further use of you.

I disagree with this line of thinking.

If I am your friend, then I am YOUR FRIEND. Meaning that I am not going to toss you to the side after my use for you is done; since really I have no agenda for befriending you to begin with. I will stay with you through what ever trials and tribulations that you may end up going through during our friendship. This what being a friend is all about, being there for each other and helping the other in their time of need; not to just use someone under the moniker of 'friend' for your personal needs.

I have many friends, some that I am close to and some that are more acquaintances; which just means that we don't keep in touch all that often or hang out as often as some of my other friends. Any of these friends can call me up for some sort of help and I will do what I can to help them out.

That is what friends are.

Til our next endeavor into this wacky mind.

Friends

Recently I have been realizing with all the people that I know and have known that many of them can be lumped into certain groups. These groups do not just apply to the people that I know, but can be used for anybody and that most people will actually fit into a couple of the same groups without any problems.

So here they are.

• True Friends: These are the people that will drop what they are doing to help you in your time of need and if by some chance they cannot, they will find someone that can or point you in the direction of someone that can. These are most likely people you have known for ages, people that you would have no trouble calling them a 'best friend'.

• Party Friends: These are your going out buds, the ones you go have some adventures with, run from the law with and generally have a good frickin' time with. These same people can be the same 'true friends' and if they aren't yet, these adventures may just make them so.

• Co-worker Friends: These are the people you work with. Either it be past or present, these people are sometime outside of work friends, usually for drinks or nights out. If not, when seen outside of work you may stop for a quick word or hello or just a friendly nod or wave of acknowledgment works.

• Network Friends: These are usually people from online or from business networks. Online friends are those from social networking sites such as MySpace or Facebook or any online forum that you may be on. These people you may have never met in real life outside of those sites. Business network friends are people that you usually meet from your line of work but are not co-workers, they may be vendors, suppliers or people from another business that interacts with yours.

Now for the class of people that pretend to be true or party but are not either. These people are wolves in sheep's clothing and should be best kept away for you to be happy in ones life.

• Convenience Friends: These are not friends at all. These people act like they are a truer friend than they really are, usually to keep you around until they need something from you or until something better comes along. These people use you for whatever means they need at the time. You go out with them, you end up driving them around to every bar they wish to go to or you end up paying for them. They need your help in dire emergencies related to them, but you will almost never hear a word from them when you may need some help from them. These people just take, never to give back to their 'friends'. These people have a lot of drama in their lives and love to be talked about or to be the center of attention either within a group or just one on one settings. They tend to have issues, deep seeded ones that you may clearly know about or just haven't really made the connection at the moment. These issues most likely cannot be fixed by you; unless you are a psychiatrist or therapist.

Of course the 'convenience friend' can apply to all of the other groupings on here, but time will truly tell what they are to you.